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cirestan says...

Make up sex.

If you were the guy I’d have to come up with something meaningful and helpful. Since you are a girl make up sex sums it up.

mellie says...

we always take it out on those we love unfortunately. you just need to make the times your feeling ok really special, hopefully then they will out weigh the bad. Do special little things for him, like baking his fave cake, runnin him a bath, giving him a massage… make him feel extra special.. he already thinks you are otherwise you wouldnt be hes fiance..

good luck hope u can work through it x

michelle k says...

im a bit like that with my partner,but he has learnt when to leave me alone,when i used to be down or in a mood he alwasy used to say ,oh whats a matter with you,and for some reason it would make me feel even worse,but now he knows the signs,and leaves me alone till its passed,i often go and have a nice bath and it makes me realise how daft ive been and much ive got to loose if i keep shouting and being mean to him,if your depressed talk to your partner and tell why you are feeling like this,all the best,

sp1keg1rl says...

I think that just knowing that you do this will help.. also telling him and becoming more aware while you are doing it so you can stop… you need to communicate and let him know that you are super depressed and that you need to be left alone and not spoken too.. sometimes when i am there. every little thing annoys me so muh…everyone loves the manic side but gets annoyed at the depressed.. but they are just two parts of how you function in the world. and they should love you for it

steakandcheeseloveit says...

in many cases of depression,and with people in relationships,the partners are often the problem! you have clearly stated that your partner in this case isn’t,you cannot change being bipolar or depressed,but what does help if that your partner knows whats going on with you,and when you feel angry or depressed, breath in, take a walk and clear your head,and make sure you state(if anything) what is bothering you!communication is the key!also if you were single who would you take your anger out on?? yourself probably,all you can do is compromise and take into mind your partner will just have to understand,and are you absolutely sure that your partner is not the problem??

minerva says...

you have a serious health problem that I’m guessing your partner is aware of. It would help if he had a support network to help him cope with the strain on him. You aren’t hurting him on purpose and he knows that. You will make yourself feel worse by worrying and then take it out on him again. Encourage him to talk to someone about his experience of your illness and get the help you need from a professional. Your partner has chosen to get engaged to you fully aware of the commitment involved. Join a group that supports you and him..sufferer and carer. You can manage your condition with the right help.. just keep searching until you find it. Remember love does not anger or judge.

MonkeyMonk says...

I’ve got the same problem, but married for 7 years. First off, I know it sounds cliche, but make sure to take your meds, if you’re on them. I’m a much grumpier monkey without the Paxil (yay Paxil!), and the Mrs. knows it; she’s caught the brunt of a couple of those days. Not fun for either of us.
Next, sit down and talk. Let them know how much you love them, and that their support and understanding is appreciated. Make sure they know that it’s not their fault (or yours for that matter.) Help them find information about your illness, so they understand, if they ask questions. Do it together; I found out stuff even I didn’t know!
Next, have them help you keep track of your cycles. I found out, with my (ever-so loving, compassionate, and tolerant) wife that I tend to hit a low time about every three months, even with medication. That way, everyone is prepared for “grumpy monkey” time.
That brings me to my final point; It’s not just you or him dealing this, it’s you two together. And if you two need any help, there are plenty of us out there ready and willing to give you a hand.

Happiness and luck in your life together!
MM

soul_lady77 says...

each time u have the anger and depression.. just take a slow walk alone to park or something just walk away from your bf!