
Patti C asked: Obviously, this is the height of impropriety and greediness – for the bride to actually have her registry information listed on the actual wedding invitation. However, some still choose to do so. Even though some do it … that does not make this correct. My question is, after being confronted with this type of bad behavior, what is the proper behavior of the guest?
I tend to believe that if confronted with poor manners, that the polite thing to do is to ignore the offensive behavior. Therefore, I will deliberately choose to purchase a present that is appropriate for the bride and groom, and expressly not on their registry. If they had been particularly rude, then I will have it monogrammed so they cannot return or regift it. This feels kind of petty, but I do not confront their error, and still acknowledge the importance of their wedding day with an appropriate gift. This usually is not an issue… but I have TWO invitations with registry info on them.
What do you do?
Just a quick example of what causes a monogram on something…. bride had listed on the reception card that cash would be accepted as a gift.
No, really. On the reception card, it says, “Gifts of cash will be greatly appreciated.”